One thing that you have to accept when you date someone with a child is that that child will always come before you. She will always be the most important person to the parent you are dating. Before I had a child, I probably never would have dated a parent, because I definitely wanted to build a life with someone who could go all-in with me. I wanted someone who I could have all to myself, to grow together, focused on each other.
Lately Sarah and I were talking about how much a million is, how much a billion is. The most striking thing I read recently that put it into perspective was that a million seconds is about a week and a half, but a billion seconds is nearly 32 years. Sarah asked me, what would I do with a billion dollars? Some people are billionaires. So some people must really think about this.
Wise people always say not to focus on the negative. It turns out that that's good advice, because there's a lot of positive out there. I was in a depressy mood last week depressing to my friend/advisor/midnight oil hero Jason about something I typically depress about, and when we started talking about what was good this year instead of bad, it felt like a much more successful year. Wildly so. Adventurous. Daring. Extraordinary. Fortuitous. And not nearly all work-related. My intention for 2015 is "less surviving, more living," but I sure did squeeze a lot of life out of the past year or so. 2014 is going down in history. Why not make a list? Here's mine.
"Oh passion-filled days, all steadfast and young, know that the next year will surpass all others, because it is new, and because it will be filled with moments that will remain unspoken of harsh and light, right along with your steady heart.
When we allow ourselves the sweetness of now, we may have all of the adventures that life has to offer in the coming year—if we are so fortunate as to have one."
Thoughts on social media marketing as I write a presentation I'm giving tomorrow: I used to want all social media roads--Twitter, Facebook, Pinterest, Instagram, Foursquare, whatever--to lead to my blog. My blog was the home of my brand, where all the content was. It's where I was trying to funnel the discussion, and it's what I was trying to get people to share on other platforms. Now, years later--I have been blogging since 1996 but went pro in early 2008--I think that content is so ubiquitous and information is so much less exclusive that blogs as a platform are much less valuable because they are not really easy to engage with.